More isn't always better

Do you have an alphabet soup of credentials following your name? When will you know enough to offer your program and services? The answer is: As soon as you know a little bit more than someone else.

It took me 100’s of thousands of dollars to finally get this. Not that I regret my training or education, it’s just that I could have been doing more of what I love, which is coaching, training, public speaking, writing, and mentoring. Instead I was cloistered within the Ivory Tower walls where the majority of my writing was only for the eyes of my professors. I was still deeply involved in my full-time practice as a Family Coach, but there was so much more I wanted to be doing!

At the core of my over-achieving I had a secret. As illogical and irrational as it seems, I felt like I was a fraud! I thought that any minute they were going to figure out that I’d snuck into my PhD program and tell me to get out!  So I peddled harder, said yes to more things than I really had time for, and hoped that at the end of the day I’d measure up. What a crock! Which was pretty much what my advisor told me when I went to her with my fears. She told me that the higher you go, the more likely it is you’re going to feel this way.

She was right, I did belong. I was right too though, because the higher you go, the more perfection is expected of you. There’s always someone looking for the chinks in your armor so they can tear you down. Not because you’re bad, but because of their own fears of not measuring up.

How do you get off that hamster wheel?

1. Take an honest assessment of your accomplishments. Have people you know and trust help you with this. Ask them what your strengths are, ask them where they see your biggest challenges.
2. Whatever program or service you’re offering, listen to your own words. They are for you as much as they are for your clients. Let go of the idea that you can ever be the whole bag of chips. Know what you know and know there are people who want to learn from you.
3. Recognize that the more you know, the more you realize how much you don’t know, and will never know. Embrace that. Let your walls down and agree with everyone who tells you that you don’t know everything. Like, duh?
4. Be transparent. We all have challenges in our lives. Your vulnerabilities are also your strengths. People will trust you more when they know you’ve faced the same challenges they are facing.
5. If learning is something you love, then keep learning, just do it for the right reasons, and in service of your highest goals.
6. Accept that there will be people who don’t like you, or think what you’re doing is wrong or misguided. There are people in this world who don’t like the Dalai Lama, that doesn’t stop him from being in service to others.
7. Let it be easy. Be willing to let it be easy.

What are you willing to let be easy?

The Value is in the Services, not in the Fees!

Value lies in the services, not in the fees!

Are you ready to step it up? Make the changes, explore the depths, learn a new skill, or face a fear? Better yet, are you finally done with the one-size-fits-all, cookie cutter blueprints for life and living? Are you ready to do it YOUR WAY??? Me too! What a relief! Like a blip on the radar I went from serving my community, to being in service to my fees. I forgot that for me, success isn’t about making more money; it’s about helping more people!  My value lies in what I have to offer, not in what I am able to charge. To all of you who saw the worth in what I offered in the past, I give you my gratitude. I thank you for your referrals, and for valuing the work we’ve done together. Now, prepare for some major rule breaking. I’m dropping my client fees. Radically. For almost half a decade I’ve received $125 per session. The gurus said do it, so I did it. Yikes! Now you’re going to get the same exact session for a fraction of that. Even better, if you choose my package of 5, you’ll save more, because what was once $125.00 is now $45.00, and the package is just $180.00. (Yep, you get a freebie) BTW…This isn’t a one shot deal, nor is there a time limit. These are my new rates. Period. Are you starting to wonder what the catch is? There are two ~ Participating in a complimentary half hour strategy session is required in order to register to ensure we’re a good fit. I can only accept 6 new clients at a time. Please don’t think of this as pressure to buy now. I’ll have a waiting list. Register when you’re ready. I’m also going to break the rule of offering only one service. Yep. I’m a rule breaker. Choose one, or choose them all. You can even give your sessions to other people. Range of Services: Family Coaching – Whatever your families shape or size, we’ll sort out the challenges based on your unique needs. I’ve years of experience with families of kids on probation so I KNOW what tough looks like, and how to make it work. Life Coaching – Stop being your own obstacle and start living the life you dream of. No matter what your situation, there IS a way! Business Coaching – We’ll design your unique business blueprint, or product, use social media to market, and I’ll teach you how to sell in a way that is actually fun :-) Client Care Systems – Keep the Clients you already have! Create TOTAL Client Loyalty that results in repeat business and word of mouth referrals. Public Speaking – Fear of public speaking? I used to be afraid to even raise my hand in class! Then I learned the secrets to successful public speaking and have had countless (seriously) of amazing opportunities and invitations to speak on radio, television, and in front of live audiences ranging from 3 to 17,000 people! SAT/ACT/GED Tutoring – Test taking strategies/tutoring that will raise ANY test score. Essay Tutoring – Whether it’s emails or essays, your words have impact. Make sure you’re making the impression that you intend. Anger Management – Learning what to do instead of raging changes everything. Recover from Childhood, Domestic Violence, Sexual Assault, and Sexual Abuse - Anyone who’s had these experiences had to learn coping skills to survive.  In our work we’ll strategize your release, both from the abuser and the memories. Thriving after Surviving! Ecopsychology – At a certain age you look around and wonder, is there more to life than this? The answer to your question is, YES! I’ve created an amazing program for you to gracefully come into alignment with who you know you’re supposed to be. Learn the language of the natural world and take your rightful place in the circle of life. Once more ~ 1.    I’ve dropped my rates from $125.00 to $45.00 2.    Package of 5 is $180 (you get a freebie) 3.    You can share your package with friends and family. Give them a session. 4.    I have room for 6 new clients. 5.    Register when you’re ready. This is NOT a onetime offer. Let’s have some fun! Call, text or email so we can get started :-) Be well, be wild, Corey Corey Hale, MA, PhD (abd) in Depth Psychology, BA Gender Studies and Political Science. Certified in Anger Management, Sexual Assault, Domestic Violence Prevention, and Victim Advocacy.  For over two decades Corey has created and facilitated workshops, trainings, coaching, and educational workshops for hugely diverse communities across the country. Her expertise ranges from workshop companies training entrepreneurs in sales and online marketing, to government agencies working with displaced and challenging populations. Her extensive education and background have given her an irresistibly unique and engaging perspective that makes doing the hard stuff fun

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